People always try to please everyone in our life. Is that even possible? I mean why would you do that to yourself? Why care about other people’s opinions when all you need to please in this world is yourself? Well its always easy to tell you off on caring about other people’s opinions. But the ones who go through it only understands how it affects us and how hard it is for us to ignore. Here I am not just telling you to stop caring but also giving you enough tips on how to make it work.
The first thing you need to realize is that this is a free world. You always have options. Options to set you your mind on a yes or a no, whether to care or not, to wear a pink dress or a black one instead. It’s all up to you. No one is going to give a minute’s notice about what you do or not.
In the process of trying to impress someone else, you betray your own conscience. You put someone’s happiness in front of you. Its not always a good thing. I am not asking you to be selfish. But there are times where you should be able to pour your heart out. Or else the hobby of sacrificing would gradually become an incurable disease. Its always good to think about others but put your own priorities in the first place.
Always consider the thought that you are being manipulated. Some people have the tendency to be a parasite to you just by manipulating or flattering you to do their own work. Don’t be afraid to say no. you are not going to lose a friend because someone who manipulates you is never a friend.
Its always a tendency to defend your decision. Don’t give reasons for your decisions. It leaves a space for the other person to manipulate you again. And the next time you will be out of reasons and you must do it. Excuses hurt more than a direct “no”. and that might hurt relationships.